Holidays, birthdays and anniversaries are usually a time for celebration, but they can be devastatingly painful times for someone who has recently suffered the loss of a loved one. Finding the right words to help someone cope during these occasions might be more difficult than you are prepared for. Keep these tips in mind as you help those you care for get through these difficult days.
Give them the support they need to express how they are feeling. Keeping everything bottled up and avoiding pain is unlikely to be helpful or healthy.
Try to lend a helping hand with anything that might need to be done. Pick up groceries, wash dishes, tidy up the home, or even mow the lawn. There’s always something you can assist with.
Encourage them to share personal memories and pictures of their loved one. Remembering happy times can be very comforting.
This is a beautiful way to preserve the memory of a loved one who has passed away.
Instead of (or in addition to) observing traditions of previous generations, starting a new tradition might help ease their pain.
Try to keep them eating right, getting plenty of rest and exercising regularly.
Brainstorm ideas for a trip or outing that they can look forward to once the holiday or special occasion is over.
Sometimes they will just need to be alone. Encourage them to take time to relax by themselves.